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British Researcher Found Female Academics are Suppressed. No Surprise Here!
Laura Favaro conducted surveys of female academics and found they suppress themselves regarding all things “sex/gender” and they’re unable to get ahead of the “trans” DARVO. That being deny, attack, reverse victim and oppressor, which is tactics of a sociopath narcissist. Meanwhile no data on trans widows, except here. We are now at 60 completing…
David Brooks’ NY Times Op Ed Defending Cass Review
The Courage to Follow the Evidence on Transgender Care Ute’s notes: I cringe every time I see the phrase “assigned at birth” when someone like David Brooks knows we are male or female at conception, and that does not change. The fact that this was published in NYT indicates the institution can no longer ignore…
New Longitudinal Study (Netherlands) Finds Cross-Sex Ideation is Short Term!
Thanks to old stalwarts and new subscribers! We are growing in readership here and subscribers to YouTube channel, Trans Widow Ute Heggen. Important new information regarding the distorted cognition of the trans delusion as well as the corruption of the fake “professional” organization WPATH, is spurring a rethink on cross-sex ideation. While at the same…
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Here’s the link to my book at iuniverse publisher:
https://www.iuniverse.com/en/bookstore/bookdetails/835834-in-the-curated-woods
Ha det bra, everyone! A little Norwegian, my mamaloschen, for have it good. Ute Heggen here. Grass widow, gras weduwe (Dutch)–ex wife of a man who is now the chief operating officer of his database management company, and a celebrated, so-called “female executive.” I am also known as a trans widow, a term I choose to replace with the old European colloquial phrase of many meanings, one of which is deserted wife. There’s no man, no husband; but no grave to mourn at, no one giving you the honor deserved in widowhood. Widows whose husbands are indeed dead understand our plight and have no problem with the use of the word. In fact, my partner Claes, is a widower, and he also uses the term grass widow for women like me. The very word trans grates like fingernails on a chalkboard. A website highlighting the stories we tell is transwidowsvoices.org, where the latest chapter of my story, my ex-husband’s financial fraud, appears under Our Voices, “Bertina.”
New mode of communication: Ute Heggen YouTube Channel Come visit to learn calming core movements, my story in short segments and see butterfly shorts!
As of the end of October, the number of times my posts has been read will go over 37,000 by 9,000 readers from more than 70 places across the globe. I now subscribe to several substacks where I comment: Graham Linehan, Bari Weiss and Colin Wright were the first I decided to join as a paid reader. I’m weighing the pros and cons for joining twitter. If I do, it will be the same self-imposed rules I use for YouTube comments: I write, click the button and do not read the comments. Often, the comments have been compassion and admission of ignorance regarding grass widows; however, I’ve also had to report those which are basically death threats. If you see me, “happily retired” on the comments under youtube comments, please note if a troll has made another threat and report it. Thanks.
As always, I publish this disclaimer: I am not promoting, advocating, suggesting or implying that anyone wearing sex-ambiguous attire, attributing non-biological pronouns to themselves or expressing other ideations different from their biology shall be physically aggressed upon or hurt or verbally harassed in any way.
Rather, I advocate for women’s rights, for respect and honor towards mothers, for girls to be safeguarded and encouraged, not groomed and humiliated. I myself was accused falsely, ludicrously, but officially in court, of pushing him, attacking him and of “physically ejecting” him from our home when the last deception during the marriage was the straw that broke this camel’s back. In fact, he moved out when I and the children were several states away in June, 1995.
This link, to Dr. Stephen B. Levine’s study, “Informed Consent Reconsidered” is the most important text to study on the subject of cross-sex issues, to date. I expect more to come.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2022.2046221
My memoir, In the Curated Woods: True Tales of a Grass Widow, is now available in soft cover (US only) and eBook from iuniverse.com/bookstore, Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Amazon/kindle has an offer for the first chapter free. I tell of my nine months of self-healing, the difficulties in my relationships with my grown sons, after I wrote them the truths, the true tales, of my grass widowhood. They’ve absorbed regulated thinking of another kind, involving Dad not being Dad anymore. The book is also a study of the nature in my almost 3 acres of woods, my environmental studies, the successes in my butterfly gardens. It is my sincere hope that my readers will grow more flowers as a result of my work.
Click on the word Blog, above, scroll down to the bottom for the list of essays, posted chronologically, and read or link to all of the issues I explore regarding cross-sex ideation and the social contagion sweeping our society.
I’ve appeared on mechantechatonne and Ella Androphobia YouTube channels, as well as David Arthur I Alphabet Man. I interviewed for Vaishnavi Sundar’s new project on trans widows, an upcoming documentary, for her Lime Soda Films YouTube channel, where the excellent 4 part series, Dysphoria, can be viewed. Working for women and girls, opening ourselves up to the realities of mother erasure and cult recruitment of teen girls, is emotionally taxing and we must remain resolute, resilient and self-aware.
I advise to take walks, cook healthy food and find physical de-stressing methods. This is not a walk in the park. Once you know the truth, you will find those actions to help girls and women; peaceful, informative efforts, and you will engage in them. I thank Chatonne, Ella, David, Vaishnavi and the many supportive new friends I’ve found through speaking out and telling my story. Our experiences must be documented, discussed and told.
Be well, always, Ute
UteHeggen~GrassWidow 