Ute Heggen: here’s the basic story, as filmed by a NY Post photographer. The Post decided not to air the video, and the photographer gifted it to me. It has two takes, slightly different, so I didn’t cut. The links seem to work now. I regret that my face is the one you see in all the profiles of other trans widows. They are all younger than me, and cannot afford possible cancellation and parental alienation that might occur after putting their images out as I do. We deal with many threats when we tell the simple, streamlined chronology of what happened when the fathers of our children go down the glitter rabbit hole.
Juliette: is an ongoing story. Her husband suddenly “came out” to her by writing a Word document on the computer, then put the laptop in her lap to read after she’d gotten their 2 year old to bed. He’s already tried out demanding that this child learn to call him a version of mother, and Juliette is firmly preventing that. We skype across the ocean almost every week to update the true tale.
Ophelia: is a long time trans widow; Tinsel Angel, founder of transwidowsvoices.org put me in touch with her after Ophelia posted a short version of her story at that website. She had it taken down when she thought (erroneously) that her ex had found out. We chatted on zoom calls repeatedly last year, and she’s more comfortable with me telling her story.
Portia: had the unsettling experience of her husband requesting her to participate in sex role play mimicking the sissy hypno porn he’d started watching. They have three children, who are now about 9, 7 and 5. Her husband hooked up with another cross-dressing dude, and they moved to the West Coast together, “as lesbians.” She’s working on getting some child support. She decided to home-school her children because of the confusion and anxiety the “gender education” at the local school was giving her older boys.
There will be more, I regret to inform you. The purpose of telling these startling, true tales is for the purpose of letting cross-dressing men in marriages know that we will remember and tell our stories, even decades later. This is not to “incite” anyone to act in any way towards our ex-husbands or men like them. The most important piece, actually, is the field of psychology’s collusion in mother erasure. They are also responsible for the trauma and PTSD of many adults and children from these families. They’ve pandered to the pharma companies, they’ve conducted low quality “research,” and engaged in the distribution of dangerous drugs. Please feel free to like, subscribe and post helpful observations at Ute Heggen youtube channel. Comments with inappropriate word salad are removed. My goal is to inform. I do not have a goal of contretemps between viewers in my comments sections.
The truth will out.
UteHeggen~GrassWidow 
Another eerie recounting of resentment towards women’s bodies, birthing, mothering, and children, all themes you have recounted from your own story:
“When writing about the birth of his first child, Helms expresses a jealousy of his wife as he watched her go into labor.
‘I felt especially proud of Donna for all she had to endure during childbirth… That being said, I have to say that, despite all the pain she went through, I felt strangely envious that she carried and gave birth to both of our boys and I didn’t.'” (https://reduxx.info/trans-pride-flag-creator-71-announces-adoption-of-14-year-old-trans-daughter/)
This seems to be an emerging theme in the experience of trans widows and other female survivors.
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Thanks for this! I’ve been wondering about Donna. The gall of Hogge (I name him by his given name) to diminish childbirth like this. The baby just born, treated as prop.
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